Are you the Cup or the Saucer?

This blog comes after posing this question to a group of ladies. Their answers were so incredibly full and transparent. The cup/saucer relationship can be seen from so many vantage points! Let’s look at some scenarios.

Which do you identify with?

-Cup & Saucer-

The Pourer: I am usually the one pouring into others

The Supporter: I am usually the one to support others to help carry what they have

The Combo: I am often supporting, but also take the time to be supported.

There are so many ways to go with the Cup & Saucer discussion. Are you pouring and being poured into? Do you feel guilty about people pouring into you? Do you feel like you should be the one always pouring? Is it taking a toll on you either pouring or being supportive? How do you balance pouring and supporting, as well as being supported?

This post comes with a host of questions. They are designed for you to do a thorough assessment of where you are concerning the totality of the various scenarios concerning the Cup & Saucer.

Supporting people can be both positive and negative. We can become enablers in our efforts to help others. We can get in the way of what God is doing to process them. Have you become a crutch for someone and impeding their Walk with God?

Do you pray before rolling up your sleeves to “help” or do you go full throttle in, because in your mind, it’s “Saucer Support Time?” What does your Circle of Friends expect from you? Can you say, “No” and the relationship not be affected by you not showing up for that moment?

This by far is a very sober blog. It will address not only why we do what we do, but the feelings that are often felt in not measuring up to what people see as the Cup & Saucer’s role. If your friendship cannot sustain a No, it will be fueled by Acts that are not free flowing; rather they become connections of fear and bondage. Fear of saying No and the impact it will have, therefore you agree to things that go contrary to what you really feel concerning the matter.

People who truly care for you and love you should be able to say, “No” to you. It is our maturity level that is on the line often times, Do we really acknowledge the level of work that a friendship or relationship of any kind really requires?

I end with an area that is often abused and violated. Does everyone know all of your Saucer Support Moves? Are you a place of confidentiality and security or are you only a temporary holder of it, until either you want to share with people what you have done for someone else or until you are no longer friends?

Breaches are serious offenses. They are not to be taken lightly. We must bring back integrity, wise counsel, and trustworthiness. Someone thought enough of you to share. Think enough of them to remain honest and faithful in covering with love and understanding.

As you ponder on these series of questions, think about the Season that you are in and how either the Cup or Saucer is being played out in your life. If you are a Pourer, assess to what extent that you do it. Is it to a default that Heaven has not signed off on or do you need to avail yourself more in your pour?

Divine Work & Pray:

Work:

Jot down in your Divine Design Journal which category you most identify with at this time. Are you the Cup or the Saucer? Also, are you finding yourself pouring out more or being poured into?

Pray:

Father God, Thank you both for the opportunity to pour out and be poured into so that others will see you. Help me to be sensitive enough in the Spirit to know how much involvement that I should have in a matter. There are times that I may need to be supportive and other times, that support may require backing up for you to have your way concerning those whom I am connected with, in any given season. Thank you for your faithfulness and guidance. It allows us to have relationships that ultimately glorify you! In Jesus’ Name. Amen,

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